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Battle of the Wills (KW – Personal Control vs. Surrender)

When I read the topics for today’s Kingdom Woman Blog Hop, I thought about using another post and changing a few sentences to covey my thoughts. Then, IT happened…

As a mom of young kids, I’m always finding material in their behavior that God wants to teach me. Today is no different. Ryan, my oldest son, is pretty comfortable going to the potty, but he’s been throwing major tantrums about doing it. I’d encourage him to go by rewarding his behavior. (Yes, I’m not above bribing my children in certain situations.) I’d lay down the law and sit there until he’d go. I’d give him time limits. You name it, I’ve done or thought about it. However, after I excuse myself from the situation and calm down, he tends to go. Then I think, “We could’ve avoided this whole thing if you would have gone to the potty in the first place!”

When it comes to strong wills, Ryan’s behaviors don’t fall far from the tree. I’ve always liked to be in control, and I’m realizing that from daily power struggles with my 3 year old. Why do I want control? Why do I feel the need to hold my stance so strongly that I lose sight of other obvious solutions? Well, I don’t want him to learn that I’m a pushover (even though I am in some instances). I don’t want him to think he’ll get his way if he just screams loudly, does his own thing, and doesn’t obey me the first time. I certainly want him to respect those in authority in his life. I…I…I… (it seems to be all about me, doesn’t it?)

So today, as Ryan and I battled in the bathroom for the umpteenth time, I stopped and prayed for wisdom and patience. Yes, I did what I should’ve done during the first tantrum and every tantrum after that. I prayed and asked God to give me wisdom in the situation and patience to deal with my child. Somehow, I feel God saying, “We could’ve avoided your selfish tactics, your frustrations, your ‘wanting to scream’ moments if you just prayed in the first place.” I can read all the Christian parenting books and seek advice from other Godly mothers, but if I’m not communicated with the Lord through prayer and searching the Scripture for how He wants me to parent, I’m doing everything in my own strength.

Today, after battling it out with my son, I’m relinquishing my love of control and giving it to the Lord. My selfishness will certainly come back, but I’m basking in the comfort and peace in knowing God can give me what I need to parent. He IS the perfect parent, after all!


Wearing God’s Glory (Kingdom Woman)

As I mentioned a few days ago, I’m participating in the One Month Journey through Tony Evans’ and Chrystal Evans Hurst’s book, Kingdom Woman. This week, Chrystal challenged us to read the introduction. Let me just say: this book will probably mess with my heart in a way that’s refreshing and scary, all at the same time.

When I think “kingdom woman,” I conjure up thoughts of a woman who has it all together. She doesn’t seem to have a care in the world because the world is always on her side. I also envision a woman who is busy doing God’s work all the time. She’s on every committee at church, leads 7 Bible studies, and is involved in 5 different ministries at church. (Now, you know, she also teaches Sunday school, so that would make 6 ministries.) She is God’s poster woman – a woman I could never emulate.

Fortunately, for me, this in NOT a kingdom woman. Basically, a kingdom woman wears God’s glory in all she does. It’s not quantity of ministries or good things, but quality of her life for the Lord. She lives her life in the knowledge and truth of who God says she is in His Word, never selling herself short by believing the lies Satan throws her way through idle chatter and degrading mind conversations.

Personally, Satan’s lies take up more space in my mind that I care to admin. I want to be a kingdom woman, but Satan grabs a hold of my thought life and holds on for dear life. So, how can I free my mind from Satan’s poison?

1. Prayer – Prayer is super powerful. I went through a time where I continuously thought about a situation for months, and I couldn’t shake the negative thoughts that filled my mind. When I prayed, my mind slowly released these thoughts and my negative attitude. It was like I held up my clenched fist to God and He slowly pried my fingers off the the feelings I was holding on to so strongly. My mind didn’t change instantaneously, but before I knew it, God had filled my mind with thoughts that pleased Him.

2. Bible study – If I don’t spend time in the Word, I’m in a rut the whole day. Find a Bible study at a church in your area, or participate in an online one like Good Morning Girls or Proverbs 31 Ministries. There’s nothing that will encourage you to wear God’s glory that meeting with other believers to discuss God’s Word.

3. Transparency with a close, Christian friend (accountability) – This is the hardest for me. Pride crowds out thoughts of opening up to anyone.

“Do they really care about my thoughts?”

“Will they perceive me as a complainer who can’t get over herself?”

“I want to be open and honest with them, but they’re not reciprocating in the sharing. It’s a one-way conversation.”

This could be the hardest, but this could also be the most refreshing. How cool would it be to know another woman who struggles in the same area(s)! We just need to open our hearts and realize that everyone has struggles, and God can do great things through transparent relationships. (See, I’m talking like it’s so easy ;))

At the end of the Introduction, Chrystal quotes Eph. 2:10 –  “…God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” What a great reminder! I’m made in God’s image, and He has great things for me to do. We’re all messes, but God uses our messed-up life to glorify Himself. How humbling!

Even though I’ve only read the introduction, I’m already praying God will change my thinking about who He created me to be. I’m praying that I’ll live for Him alone and not the approval of others.

If you’re reading Kingdom Woman, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Book Club: Kingdom Woman

Have any of you heard of Chrystal Evans Hurst?


What about a book called Kingdom Woman?

(Never heard of it.)

Well, what if I mentioned Tony Evans or Priscilla Shirer?

(They sound familiar…)

Well, Chrystal Evans Hurst is the daughter of Tony Evans (and sister to Priscilla Shirer), and she’s co-written a book with her dad called Kingdom Woman.

Walking in the way of a kingdom woman will transform you forever. Starting now, you can discover your true spiritual destiny and leave discouragement behind.

Come with Dr. Tony Evans and his daughter Chrystal Evans Hurst as they explain how you can unleash new spiritual purpose, power, and possibilities in your life. Tony Evans’ inspired teaching will give you new and transforming insights into biblical principles, assuring you that God is on your side and that He tenderly cares about every woman.

With humor and vulnerability, Chrystal Hurst shares personal and practical insights that will help you embrace your role as a woman with wisdom, spiritual beauty, and sensitivity.

You don’t have to seek anyone else’s approval for the life God has given you.

Kingdom Woman

I’ve explored her blog ( to “meet” the author, and I’m pretty impressed. Chrystal isn’t only a humorous, fun-loving person, she’s also dedicated to the Word of God. As I skimmed her book, I noticed each chapter was saturated with Scripture. This doesn’t seem to be your typical “Christian Self-Help” book. Dr. Evans and Chrystal have used God’s Word and personal illustrations to bring home the concept of a Kingdom Woman.

I’d love for you to join me as we learn who (and what) a Kingdom Woman is. If you’d like to join Chrystal’s Kingdom Woman One Month Journey (like I have), visit  Each week, I’ll post my thoughts to Chrystal’s “R & R” (Reading and Reflection), as well as key concepts in each chapter (from my point of view). I encourage you to grab a book and join in the conversation.

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